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Anonymous #1
	Anybody else ever have a significant other whom takes Prozac (or any SSRI/antidepressant) for that matter. I read it dulls down emotions, including their ability to love, and have begun to question our relationship. In all honestly it just seems like a friendship with the lack of emotion. I feel odd about this :/ Experiences? Edited by Anonymous (04/03/12 09:32 PM)
CureCat Strangest ? Registered: 04/19/06 Posts: 13,862 Loc: clawing your furniture
	I've taken fluoxetine, other SSRI's, and anti-depressants? on and off? for years now.? It is not an ideal mood stabilizer for most people because it really does numb your emotions and fuck up your libido pretty bad for the vast majority of people.? I liken it to feeling slightly robotic.? It's really nice on an intellectual level, because you can consider things very logically and practically without emotions clouding your judgement.? Of course, if it is necessary to give emotional perspective some weight, then you're left with the difficulty of trying to empathize, which can be massively frustrating for anyone involved.? And then there is the lack of sexual inclination.? The medicine usually supresses both your drive and ability to reach climax, thus making it kind of a lame activity. Sooooo, most people realize pretty quickly that it is hard for both partners to be in a commited relationship with someone taking these medications. That said, some times my life just gets so fucked up as a result of my psychosis that I decide that the most important thing is to get my life back together, my thoughts clear, and my priorities straightened.? So I will take a very small dose of the medicine to curb my constant anxiety, fear, and sadness.? It definitely helps, but inevitably I get bored not feeling anything anymore...? So I stop taking it, and wait for the part in the cycle where I can't take it anymore. Anyway.? If I were you I wouldn't expect much.? If you try to convince your significant other to stop taking the medicine in attempt to save the relationship, you will probably be met with resentment, as they will feel like you are being selfish putting their emotional well-being second to your ideals in the relationship. It might be in both of your best interest to cut it off if the relationship loses passion. --------------------
Anonymous #2
	prozac fucked me up. i took it for like 3 days before i was forced to stop. i think my gf takes it now. she says she would be a wreck without her antidepressants
Anonymous #1
	To the 1st reply: yeah I was thinking that too. The only problem is that this chick is liable to stop taking it if I breakup with(epically over the matter)...and then it would be like breakup+withdrawal which would be extremely difficult(I don't want her to wind up killing herself.) Quote: *Anonymous said:* i think my gf takes it now. she says she would be a wreck without her antidepressants How longs she been on it, and how it going for her, and the relationship? Edited by Anonymous (04/04/12 11:51 AM)
koraks ? Registered: 06/02/03 Posts: 16,010
	I was on SSRI's for a year or two when I was 19-20 or so. They never affected my sex drive as far as I'm aware; they only made it harder to cum (which I didn't consider a disadvantage really), plus I grew pretty fat and I became intolerant of soft drinks I'd focus more on the underlying problems; i.e. the psychological mess the SSRI's are prescribed for in the first place. I think they may have a more profound effect on your relationship than the pills.
Opiate Good Intentions Registered: 03/11/12 Posts: 52 Loc: NC Last seen: 2 minutes, 41 seconds
	I have been taking zoloft for a yeah and a half and yeah it has that kind of numbing affect but I can hande relationships just fine. I think it is responsible for me not killing myself hone.stly --------------------
CureCat Strangest ? Registered: 04/19/06 Posts: 13,862 Loc: clawing your furniture
	Quote: *Anonymous said:* it would be like breakup+withdrawal which would be extremely difficult The way that SSRIs work? means that you don't really get withdrawal symptoms as profoundly as with other drugs.? In fact, it usually takes a couple weeks or more after you stop taking prozac to notice any change.? Same with when you first start taking it- it will usually take a few weeks for the inhibitor to have caused enough serotonin to build up in the synapses to have any noticeable effect.
CureCat Strangest ? Registered: 04/19/06 Posts: 13,862 Loc: clawing your furniture
	Quote: *koraks said:* plus I grew pretty fat Huh.? For me it seems SSRIs have an appetite regulation effect, and I tend to eat less. Quote: *koraks said:* I became intolerant of soft drinks Wait, what??? What do you mean?
trulyknotmadly impromteau therapist Registered: 03/18/12 Posts: 28 Loc: texas Last seen: 6 hours, 15 minutes
	I've been taking prozac for a year. My brother and sister died this month a year ago.? My brother was shot and killed, my sister died from cancer.? It's been a rough year. Yeah, the prozac helped me because it muted a LOT of my raging emotions, from anger to sadness.? But for the first few months, it was very hard to have any sexual interest at all.? I just didn't get 'in the mood' easily.? I would imagine that a lot of foreplay is in order, but kinda take it easy.? You take out your frustrations on her, that would be bad for both of you.? You get to feel like shit for being a jackass to a depressed person, she feels like shit for not being more interested in the person she loves.? Lose-lose.? But if she's THAT numb, maybe you should talk to her....and both of you talk to her doctor.? The dosage might be too high, or it's the wrong pill, Neo. -------------------- "You're only given a litttle spark of madness. You? mustn't lose it." - Robin Williams (1951 - )
Anonymous #1
	Quote: *trulyknotmadly said:* I've been taking prozac for a year. My brother and sister died this month a year ago.? My brother was shot and killed, my sister died from cancer.? It's been a rough year. Yeah, the prozac helped me because it muted a LOT of my raging emotions, from anger to sadness.? But for the first few months, it was very hard to have any sexual interest at all.? I just didn't get 'in the mood' easily.? I would imagine that a lot of foreplay is in order, but kinda take it easy.? You take out your frustrations on her, that would be bad for both of you.? You get to feel like shit for being a jackass to a depressed person, she feels like shit for not being more interested in the person she loves.? Lose-lose.? But if she's THAT numb, maybe you should talk to her....and both of you talk to her doctor.? The dosage might be too high, or it's the wrong pill, Neo. -The sex isn't the biggest problem, i mean its not the best sex, but im much more concerned about her ability to be feel love. And when i say love i don't mean make love(sex). I mean to actually feel mentally for your significant other. -What do you mean taking my frustration out on her? -Have already talked her alot about it. Didn't think it would be in my range to reach out to her doctor.... -I should also mention she takes it for previously had anixety/shyness. And claims to have developed a low depression after being on it. I'd imagine living so long with blunted emotions would make someone a little depressed.... Edited by Anonymous (04/04/12 09:13 PM)
reeferaddict69 Self Transforming Machine Elves ? Registered: 10/31/07 Posts: 9,139 Loc: Straight Outta Compton Last seen: 6 minutes, 52 seconds
	SSRI's will obliterate your sex drive while on them and possibly long after you stop taking them.? Google PSSD. --------------------
koraks ? Registered: 06/02/03 Posts: 16,010
	Quote: *CureCat said:* Quote: *koraks said:* plus I grew pretty fat Huh.? For me it seems SSRIs have an appetite regulation effect, and I tend to eat less. In my case, it seemed like a matter of metabolism rather than appetite. I just blew up like a balloon Quote: Quote: *koraks said:* I became intolerant of soft drinks Wait, what??? What do you mean? Ok, more specifically: carbonated drinks would give me excruciating stomach pains. When I stopped taking SSRI's, the problem immediately went away.
Real CA Milk ......one mellow fellow =/ Registered: 12/26/08 Posts: 6,215 Last seen: 1 hour, 24 minutes
	No.....thank god. I would rather deal with my bitch of a wife than deal withs some medicated chick. Fuck that witchcraft Edited by Real CA Milk (04/05/12 02:44 PM)
trulyknotmadly impromteau therapist Registered: 03/18/12 Posts: 28 Loc: texas Last seen: 6 hours, 15 minutes
	Quote: -The sex isn't the biggest problem, i mean its not the best sex, but im much more concerned about her ability to be feel love. And when i say love i don't mean make love(sex). I mean to actually feel mentally for your significant other. -What do you mean taking my frustration out on her? -Have already talked her alot about it. Didn't think it would be in my range to reach out to her doctor.... What I mean by taking out your frustrations on her is like getting upset about it all.? If you're upset about it and approach her that way, it will suck.? Hell, sometimes being rational sucks. It was weird.? You might have to ease her into it.? Just, you know, being affectionate more often.? I don't know that people on prozac think about that.? In fact, sometimes I wonder if they (we/I) think at all.? You say you've talked to her about it.? So was there any reaction?? Any results? -------------------- "You're only given a litttle spark of madness. You? mustn't lose it." - Robin Williams (1951 - )
CureCat Strangest ? Registered: 04/19/06 Posts: 13,862 Loc: clawing your furniture
	Quote: *trulyknotmadly said:* ? I don't know that people on prozac think about that.? In fact, sometimes I wonder if they (we/I) think at all.? Personally I tend to think about things a lot more clearly on prozac.? My thoughts don't seem disorganized and crowded, and my emotions aren't hindering my thought process.
Real CA Milk ......one mellow fellow =/ Registered: 12/26/08 Posts: 6,215 Last seen: 1 hour, 24 minutes
	Quote: *CureCat said:* Quote: *trulyknotmadly said:* ? I don't know that people on prozac think about that.? In fact, sometimes I wonder if they (we/I) think at all.? Personally I tend to think about things a lot more clearly on prozac.? My thoughts don't seem disorganized and crowded, and my emotions aren't hindering my thought process. Ever wonder if those emotions are trying to TELL you something Sure id love the bliss and emotional freedom/clarity that I get with MDMA or Caffiene, but do I constantly take them on a daily basis, doing long term damage to my mind and body in order to achieve the mindset I enjoy most? Sorry, I just dont agree with the anti depressant route. Unless you are on the verge of killing someone, there is no reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies, and get hooked on weird synthetic drugs and no, thats not trolling
CureCat Strangest ? Registered: 04/19/06 Posts: 13,862 Loc: clawing your furniture
	Quote: *Real CA Milk said:* Sorry, I just dont agree with the anti depressant route. Unless you are on the verge of killing someone, there is no reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies, and get hooked on weird synthetic drugs No reason??? Clearly other people have reasons even if you don't agree with those reasons. How about being constantly freaked out because you can't function in society and your emotions are so stifling that you haven't done anything in your life that you can look back on and be proud of?? I think that is a pretty good "reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies", although that is not how I perceive it.? Our opinions differ, likely because we experience very different realities on a daily basis.
Real CA Milk ......one mellow fellow =/ Registered: 12/26/08 Posts: 6,215 Last seen: 1 hour, 24 minutes
	Quote: *CureCat said:* Quote: *Real CA Milk said:* Sorry, I just dont agree with the anti depressant route. Unless you are on the verge of killing someone, there is no reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies, and get hooked on weird synthetic drugs No reason??? Clearly other people have reasons even if you don't agree with those reasons. How about being constantly freaked out because you can't function in society and your emotions are so stifling that you haven't done anything in your life that you can look back on and be proud of?? I think that is a pretty good "reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies", although that is not how I perceive it.? Our opinions differ, likely because we experience very different realities on a daily basis. Fair enough
Anonymous #1
	Quote: *CureCat said:* Quote: *Real CA Milk said:* Sorry, I just dont agree with the anti depressant route. Unless you are on the verge of killing someone, there is no reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies, and get hooked on weird synthetic drugs No reason??? Clearly other people have reasons even if you don't agree with those reasons. How about being constantly freaked out because you can't function in society and your emotions are so stifling that you haven't done anything in your life that you can look back on and be proud of?? I think that is a pretty good "reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies", although that is not how I perceive it.? Our opinions differ, likely because we experience very different realities on a daily basis. Im actually with Real CA Milk on this one for the most part. For someone who's mildly anxious or depressed there no need for these substances. If it's life crippling anxiety/depression there may be need for these substance. Curecat: if you don't mind me asking, when you say you've been on it "off and on" how long do stay off? how long do you stay on? generally? Edited by Anonymous (04/05/12 09:49 PM)
CureCat Strangest ? Registered: 04/19/06 Posts: 13,862 Loc: clawing your furniture
	Quote: *Anonymous said:* Quote: *CureCat said:* Quote: *Real CA Milk said:* Sorry, I just dont agree with the anti depressant route. Unless you are on the verge of killing someone, there is no reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies, and get hooked on weird synthetic drugs No reason??? Clearly other people have reasons even if you don't agree with those reasons. How about being constantly freaked out because you can't function in society and your emotions are so stifling that you haven't done anything in your life that you can look back on and be proud of?? I think that is a pretty good "reason to be a mental slave to the pharmaceutical companies", although that is not how I perceive it.? Our opinions differ, likely because we experience very different realities on a daily basis. Im actually with Real CA Milk on this one for the most part. For someone who's mildly anxious or depressed there no need for these substances. If it's life crippling anxiety/depression there may be need for these substance. How is what I just described "mild" rather than "crippling"?? It seems like some people with no personal experience with mental illness are quick to set the standards for other people who may benefit from medicine.? Saying someone shouldn't need something is very idealistic and turns a blind eye to someone who's saying "maybe I shouldn't need help, but unfortunately I do".? There are certainly things that I don't personally need as much as the next person, but who am I to be the judge of what someone else needs to feel okay? Someone might say they only need to get off once a month to feel alright, and the next person says they need to get off once a day or they can't think straight.? It would be belittling to tell the person who "needs" it daily or weekly in order to feel normal that they don't just because some people can hold out longer.